BPD RECOVERY COACHING
FROM A LIVED EXPERIENCE COACH
BPD recovery coaching is aimed at: validating and assisting you to understand your past and current experience and how you came to be where you are today. I offer different skills and techniques during coaching so that you can learn and practice how to balance the extreme rollercoaster ride that many of us have been on for years and for some of us, decades. I also encourage and support you to achieve your goals and to live a life based on your own unique values and vision.
I’m a coach who is on your side because I work from my own lived experience of recovering from Borderline Personality Disorder. My style of coaching is empathetic, equal, insightful, kind and when it’s helpful, I also invite you to connect with and be your true self. Many of us aren’t taught or haven’t ever had it role modelled to us, how to do this.
I understand and coach from the perspective that BPD occurs when we are in a long term state of emotional and thought dysregulation, a state which is occurring for a reason and a state that is also transformable.
We experience extreme states of distress through no fault of our own and are often denied access to care and treatment which can then make our symptoms even worse (please see my Youtube channel for free information on BPD recovery). The distress we experience can be caused by many different factors, of which I assist you to explore, unravel and understand. The aim being for you to take empowered, aware action to change your state towards thoughts, emotions and behaviours that serve you in recovery and in your ability to live a meaningful life.
As well as genetics and temperament, BPD is mostly due to experiences of childhood trauma and abuse which a sufferer may or may not be conscious of. Trauma is any series of situations or events which overwhelm our ability to cope and make us feel powerless usually in a manner which is ongoing. This could be due to emotional, psychological, spiritual, sexual, physical abuse and or neglect as well as attachment and bonding or trans and intergenerational trauma. The experiences we have from conception onwards are stored in our body in sensory fragments and these fragments can sometimes be very difficult to verbally and visually recall or articulate. If we are aware of our traumas, we can often feel disbelieved, silenced, blamed, shamed and invalidated by those around us which can leave us feeling even more distressed and suicidal. In my coaching service I believe, honour and validate your truth and support you to share your story and create a new narrative.
A part of my coaching is focused on skills, mindfulness and bodied orientated practice. This is because our bodies and minds remember our past experiences on some level and can remind us of what’s unresolved and stuck on a replay feedback type loop by: dissociating, feeling confused, depressed and suicidal, anxious, overwhelmed, wanting to self harm or numb emotional pain through addictions, feeling rageful, impulsive, jealous, abandoned, rejected or empty and in conflict with people in our lives who do not understand why we feel and act the way that we do. Often we ourselves do not fully understand why we feel and act the way that we do. I can assist you through my service of Each Person Counts Borderline Personality Disorder recovery coaching, to understand, heal, recover and thrive.