I provide a confidential one on one internet or phone coaching service for people aged over 21 years who have been diagnosed and labelled with with Borderline Personality Disorder. I coach clients based on my lived experience and recovery from BPD. I charge $85 USD for one hour. Please click on the book now button to check my availability and book in for your session.
BPD RECOVERY COACHING
FROM A LIVED EXPERIENCE COACH
BPD recovery coaching is aimed at: validating and assisting you to understand your past and current experience and how you came to be where you are today. I offer different skills and techniques during coaching so that you can learn and practice how to balance the extreme rollercoaster ride that many of us have been on for years and for some of us, decades. I also encourage and support you to achieve your goals and to live a life based on your own unique values and vision.
I’m a coach who’s on your side because I work from my own lived experience of recovering from Borderline Personality Disorder. My style of coaching is empathetic, equal, insightful, and kind. I invite you to connect with and be your true self which many of us aren’t taught or haven’t ever had it role modelled to us, how to do this.
I understand and coach from the perspective that BPD occurs when we are in a long term state of emotional and thought dysregulation, a state which is occurring for a reason and a state that is also transformable.
We experience extreme states of distress through no fault of our own and are often denied access to care and treatment which can then make our symptoms even worse (please see my YouTube channel for free information on BPD recovery). The distress we experience can be caused by many different factors, of which I assist you to explore, unravel and understand. The aim being for you to take empowered, aware action to change your state towards thoughts, emotions and behaviours that serve you in recovery and in your ability to live a meaningful life.
As well as genetics and temperament, BPD is mostly due to experiences of childhood trauma and abuse which a sufferer may or may not be conscious of. Trauma is any series of situations or events which overwhelm our ability to cope and make us feel powerless usually in a manner which is ongoing. This could be due to emotional, psychological, spiritual, sexual, physical abuse and or neglect as well as attachment and bonding or trans and intergenerational trauma. The experiences we have from conception onwards are stored in our body in sensory fragments and these fragments can sometimes be very difficult to verbally and visually recall or articulate. If we are aware of our traumas, we can often feel disbelieved, silenced, blamed, shamed and invalidated by those around us which can leave us feeling even more distressed and suicidal. In my coaching service I believe, honour and validate your truth and support you to share your story and create a new narrative.
A part of my coaching is focused on skills, mindfulness and bodied orientated practice. This is because our bodies and minds remember our past experiences on some level and can remind us of what’s unresolved and stuck on a replay feedback type loop by: dissociating, feeling confused, depressed and suicidal, anxious, overwhelmed, wanting to self harm or numb emotional pain through addictions, feeling rageful, impulsive, jealous, abandoned, rejected or empty and in conflict with people in our lives who do not understand why we feel and act the way that we do. Often we ourselves do not fully understand why we feel and act the way that we do. I can assist you through my service of Each Person Counts Borderline Personality Disorder recovery coaching, to understand, heal, recover and thrive.
MODALITIES I USE IN COACHING
I majored in human relations, communication and sociology in my undergraduate degree and I also studied health science and holistic counselling. I have since trained in motivational interviewing, emotional CPR, family constellations and internal family systems therapy, IREST yoga nidra, intentional peer support and the hearing voices approach. These modalities have to taught me to coach holistically and from a belief in hope and recovery for all. I ask more from a stance of ‘what happened to you?’ rather than ‘what’s wrong with you?’. As well as ‘what do you want to create, experience and enjoy in life?’. These modalities have given me skills in understanding how our families, though often unconscious and unintentional, can be partly causing our distress. I coach you on how to use skills to navigate and deal with any complex, challenging and toxically stressful relationship dynamics in your life. My training and education has taught me how to listen, hold space, support, encourage and coach you to get through the hardest times in life and to learn how to open and receive the gifts that come from resolving and transforming our experiences of being labelled with BPD.
EVERYONE CAN RECOVER
Everyone can recover from being labelled with Borderline Personality Disorder, research proves this. It takes commitment, time, practice, skills and support but it is possible. If I can get through years and years of living in the depths of hell, then I believe that you can too. Not only have I survived and recovered but I’m now experiencing the joys and rewards that come from being on this now more balanced rollercoaster ride. I get to feel deeply, my small group of relationships/friendships are all genuine and authentic, I have strong boundaries and values, my mood is more even, I’m able to respond rather than react, I’m healthy and vibrant and my work is intrinsically rewarding. I’ve seen and witnessed the sheer strength, fortitude, will and grit that show it is possible to get through anything in life that BPD throws at us and to be able to come out the other end and make a positive difference in the world, how ever we choose to do that. As your coach I support you to find your gifts and new place in the world and it’s my honour and privilege to share that journey with you.
‘My family constellation with Kate was one of the most holistic experiences that I have ever had. It was intense, yet healing, creative and therapeutic. She kindly assisted me when expressing unpacked emotions. I am so grateful how she emotionally supported me during the session. The initial meditation and some family projections helped me to contact with my innerself. Once I had deepened into my family structure I found out emotions never seen before. Despite my three years freudian therapy, we discovered part of my masculinity hidden from dominant feminist energy in my ancestors. Now those dualistic energies interact more positively helping me to understand better my persona. Thanks so much Kate.’
‘I recently attended my first one on one Family Constellation facilitated by Kate. Kate was welcoming, supportive and clear of what we will be doing. Kate is an excellent coach, reassuring and letting you go with the flow. Her calm nature and positive energy made me comfortable and open to her coaching. I recommend Kate for her professionalism, confidentiality and kindness’.
‘What a beautiful experience, thank you Kate. I haven’t felt that relaxed in a long time. Your voice was very soothing and instructions easy to follow. I reconnected with a valuable past memory that I can use now as a resource to help me during times of stress or when I need some inner support. Kate also helped me to go back and uncover some unhealthy family dynamics that I was unaware of. This was both a revelation and a little painful at the same time. She helped me to tie some of these loose ends together, and did so in a very supportive and respectful way. I felt like Kate was fully present with me during the whole process and knew intuitively how the healing should progress during the session. This is a very powerful healing technique’.
See About Me for details of my educational qualifications and professional work experience. Please note I am not a clinician and I do not diagnosis or treat patients. I am a coach walking along side you. Having traversed these paths well, I respect that the most powerful answers to your life’s questions lie within you.